Anchoring Script

Anchoring State Elicitation

“Can you recall a time when you were totally (desired state), do you remember a specific time?
As you go back to that time now, go right back to that time, float down into you body and see what you saw, hear what you heard, and really feel the feelings of being totally_________!”
Resource Anchor
Stack multiple positive states in one location like totally powerful, playful, loved, fall down laughing, confident etc.
Collapse Anchors
Choose a negative state to eliminate & the powerfully positive state’s needed to replace the negative.
Elicit and anchor the positive state’s on one knuckle 5+ times & Break state
Elicit and anchor the negative state on the next knuckle one time & Break state
Fire both simultaneously until integration is complete
Release the negative anchor, while continuing to hold the positive anchor
Release the positive anchor 5 seconds later
Test: “So the next time you (encounter the trigger) what happens?”
Neural Bridge
Used for moving someone from Procrastination to Motivation, Fear to Confidence, Anger to Playfulness, Frustration to Calm or Feeling stuck with no options to being excited about all possibilities.
Bridge Design
Decide on the first and last state
Criteria for intermediate states: First intermediate state can be away from motivated, all intermediate states must have movement, what will be a sufficiently intense state to move the chain onto the next state?
Second to last state must be towards motivated, the state should be self-initiated, should NOT be how they already do it & should be a natural progression.
Steps to a Neural Bridge
Choose the undesirable state that you want to change and choose the desired end state, identify 2-3 states in between that can be utilised to successfully create movement from one state to the next.
Elicit each state and stack each anchor separately on the individual knuckles 3 times each, break state between each anchor and test each stacked anchor separately.
Chain states to each other by firing the 1st state, when the first state peaks fire the 2nd anchor simultaneously and then release the 1st .
Hold 2nd anchor. When 2nd state peaks, fire the 3rd anchor simultaneously; then release the 2nd , hold 3rd anchor, when 3rd state peaks, fire the 4th anchor simultaneously, then release the 3rd and hold onto the 4th, until the 4th peaks then release the 4th. Break state
Test by touching the 1st knuckle and firing the 1st link in the bridge. The client should chain through all the states and wind up in the desired state
Break state
Future pace: “Can you think of an indefinite time in the future where in the past you may have experienced that old state, and notice what happens for you now.”
The Ring Of Power
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that each of us has all the resources we need inside of ourselves. The ring of power or circle of excellence is a techniques that allows us to access our innate resources that we retrieve from our unconscious mind. The ring of power is a resource anchor that is useful in many circumstances.
Process:
Anchor a number of positive powerful states to an imagined circle on the floor; Imagine a ring of power in front of you as a circle about 2 feet in diameter

Now remember a time when you were totally _________ (eg motivated) and when you are totally ________ (motivated), then step into the ring.

When the state begins to subside then step out of the ring

Add additional desired states in the same way

When done adding all states, step into the ring of power and test

Step out of the ring and test

Future pace
Rock and Roll
@robwway
PS. What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

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Looking for a mentor?

In a recent article for ‘The Shaker‘ I wrote about the idea of ‘rethinking mentoring‘.

Central to the idea is the use of books. Looking through my current audio book history, I 20 different books by 13 different authors. All of which I would consider are my mentors, the content varies from personal development, to leadership, marketing, sales training and understanding my ego.

The reason I consider these authors my mentors can be found in the definition. Mentor – ‘an experienced and trusted adviser’.

I currently don’t have direct access to Gary Vee or Seth Godin, in the absence of this I can read any of their books. In doing this I can get insight into what they think is important, how they suggest I can execute on their suggestions and in general become a better version of my self by learning from an experienced and trusted advisor.

So if you are looking for a mentor, but don’t know where to look, start with a book!

Rock and Roll

Rob

PS. What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

Workmate or colleague?

There are two types of people you work with, workmates and colleagues.

A workmate is someone you:

  • have had a beer with,
  • get coffee,
  • have lunch with (by choice),
  • have shared a personal stories with, and
  • laugh with a fair bit.

It’s also probable that you share the same ideas about your job and the outcomes you are shooting for (even if you have different ways of getting them), the same things piss you off about the job and the colleagues you work with.

Now a colleague is different, for the most part they don’t share the same ideas as you, they definitely don’t have the same humor. They are the people that you will work with if you have to, you will get on and play nice. But you definitely don’t joke with them, it’s 100% professional.

So I ask you, what do you want?

Do you want to spend 40 hours a week with colleagues or workmates?

Rock and Roll

Rob

P.S. What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

Thanks a lot Qantas!

Don’t you hate it when you are on a plane, seated in your seat and some person puts their arse right on you. WTF!

It happened to me a couple of days ago and all I can think to my self is, pay attention to what is going around you.

I want my flight without arse in my face, arse face. 

Of course, being obsessed with PD, it makes me think about awareness and how so many people are completely unaware of their environment, what’s happening around them and what impact they have on others. 

Part of me just wants to yell in their face and tell them to get stuffed. Then, there is  another part of me that wonders, why do they have no idea? What is their perspective?

The long way the way to do this is through a technique called perceptual positions, which is about seeing things from three perspectives. Yours, theirs and an observers. 

The short way is to separate you from the equation and to pretend you are them? 

Simply put, imagine stepping into their shoes and:

  • see what they see, 
  • hear what they hear, and 
  • feel what they feel. 

What were they doing right in the moment that they messed with you?
Answer that then you will truly be on the path to understanding others perspectives. 

But let’s say someone reading this calls “bullshit”.
Let’s think about why I ended up with arse in my face? 

The passenger was making room for the people sitting next to him, he was focusing on removing his jacket while making polite conversation. He had no idea he was placing his butt on me. Do I still think, get stuffed? A little bit, but when I get over my BS I can see it was just a mistake. 

What have you been unaware of recently? Have you jumped to any conclusions?

Rock and Roll 

Rob

P.S. Whats the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

I hate you and this program!

I use to be a trainer for an IT program, not just any, but a really boring one. The sort of thing that people hated to use. 

On top of it being boring, people were forced to attend training, which had them even more excited to be there. 

This one time, a trainee rocked up, looked me right in the face and said “I fucking hate you and I hate this program“.

At this stage in my career I had completed my NLP presentation and platform skills training and I had become pretty good a crating rapport, even so, about a million thoughts went through my mind in that second. All I could muster was “welcome” with a smile of course. 

Over the course of the day it became clear this bloke had been forced to show up, had not been told why, in general had never really had success with computers and had only heard bad things about the software. By realizing these things, over about 6 hours I was able to explain the ‘why’, gave him some easy tips on how to be successful with a computer and demonstrated the benefits of the system. 

In life, people are going to show up in front of you that don’t know who you are and what you are about, they will have their preconceptions and beliefs that you cannot do anything about. What you can do is be open, honest, hear what’s happening for them and try your best to help. Building rapport can help too, but just doing those things will get you a long way…..

Unlike telling them ‘not to fuck with you’…. don’t do that one, it doesn’t work. 

Rock and Roll 

Rob

PS. What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

Are you, you?

I just got on a jet in Tasmania and saw a face that I had not seen in years. It belonged to a bloke I had worked with as a mentor. 

Now he was 100% sure that he was going to work in the medical industry….. but here he was, a hugely confident team leader on my flight. 

So I have to wonder, how many people state what they want as a matter of fact. But then end up doing something completely different?

Or, is the problem we, or more specifically I, believe what will give us purpose is the job we do or the industry we are in. Maybe I’m missing the point?

I wonder if, to live our purpose, the best approach is to not worry about the industry you make the difference in is. Maybe what you are here on this earth to do is to bring the person you are in every moment, regardless of industry. 

So for me, the question I ponder now is not how to find my purpose and live it, but how do I make sure I am able to let 100% of my personality out every day. How am I able to be me, regardless of the situation I’m in?

So I ask you.

Are you, you 100% of the time?

Rock and Roll

Rob

PS. Whats the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

So Fu*+ing What?

I want to do what ever I can to help you get what you want. 

My goal is to help you understand what you want, define it and demonstrate how it differs from what you have been asking for.  

I want to teach you how to hear what people are truly saying, read what they are not, show you how to better understand others, how to communicate your desires to anyone, how to build strong connections with people, understand your self better, understand your helpful and hindering strategies, and help you build psychological resources that increase your probability of success.

I care about the people looking for answers and want to figure them selves out. 

I see my self as a part of the Personal Development movement, probably not Tony Robbins or Zig Ziglar, but a part of it.

I want to make sure every person searching for help will find the answers they seek. 

I want to keep sharing with you the books, gurus, activities and tools that have helped me achieve success and help me understand who I am. 

Simply put, I want everyone to have success and help them get there. 

So who do I think you are? 

Who am I talking about? 

Who do I want to talk with?

I want to talk with you and I think you are curious, you want to know what makes you, you,you want something more from life than a 9-5 job, you believe you are destined to make a difference, you desperately want to understand what that is, and you want to live it daily. 

I believe you are frustrated with speaking and not being heard, frustrated with people in general, frustrated with their reactions to the world around them and to you.

I think you walk through book stores waiting for ‘that book’ to jump out at you, the one that will give you the answers you are looking for. 

You follow Gary Vee (http://instagram.com/garyvee), Seth Godin (http://www.sethgodin.com/sg), Grant Cardone (https://grantcardone.com) and (insert every other inspirational person here) on Facebook/twitter/Instagram etc and love hearing what he/she/they have to say and at the same time you hate them a little bit and they annoy you, and there are 20 other people like them that inspire you to be a better you, but it still hasn’t clicked for you, yet. 

You were, are or have been looking for love and want to have a family and at the same time you get lost in social media, news, videos, Netflix, drinking, talking shit and all those other distractions. 

And every now and again you wake up and ask what you are doing with your life. 

Some times you are jealous of the success your peers have and you think you would find happiness if you had their job, partner or pay.

Ultimately I believe you are searching for your purpose and for something that will give your life meaning. 

The reason I know you think these things, is because I think and I believe them. 

And I know I am not some special and unique individual that is alone in my thinking. 

Though my experiences might be different to yours, I am still a human being just like you. 

So what, who the fuck am I?

Most importantly I am a husband and I am a father. 

I found the love of my life and we made a mother fucking human and it is the best thing I have ever done. 

I am obsessed with making sure I leave my human imprinted with my values, ideals, beliefs and strategies (at least the good ones). 

I want her to learn how to be a good human, how to ad value to the world and make a positive difference in the world. 

I want to die having left her lots of money, property, intellectual property that turns a profit, books, businesses and anything else that can fund her dreams. 

And I want her to not need it. 

I hope what I leave behind gives her everything her kids need to have success and that this lasts for every generation after her. 

Next, I identify my self as an entrepreneur by night and a business analyst by day.

I love working with people, love teaching people, helping people, basically anything to do with people. 

I have spend thousands and thousands of dollars studying body language, 

micro expressions, neuro linguistic programming (NLP), hypnosis, marketing, business, project management, and 

basically anything that has anything to do with all of that. 

Plus I read and read and read a lot!

I have run seminars for 5 – 150 people, teaching anything from communication styles (https://robertway.com.au/2015/11/05/vak-observation-activity/) to change management (https://robertway.com.au/2017/03/20/4matt-of-change/).

But again, so fucking what, what do I believe?!

I believe, like you, in searching for my purpose. 

I believe in making a difference in the world, that we all have something unique and valuable to give, that we should spend our entire lives trying to figure out what our purpose is and live it daily.

I believe connections with people matter and

that we all should put time into connecting with people like us (not everyone ever).

I believe we all should get everything that we want out of life, which is what I want to help you with, here and more.

Now I have been writing this while flying to Tasmania. 

I find my self in this moment, not knowing how to finish this rant, that was suppose to be one paragraph.

All I can think of is Woddy Harrelson in Zombieland (https://g.co/kgs/CfHn97) and how he said goodbye……. “that will do pig, that will do”.

Rock and Roll

Rob

What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

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